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I love the idea of 'stress wood'. Thank you for these wise words, Deb.

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Regarding the relationship of success and failure, there’s a lovely piece of poetry in Urdu:

“Pasti hai toh bulandi hai,

Raaz-e-bulandi pasti hai”

The loose translation of that is…

“Because there are lows, there can be highs. The secret of (your) highs are your lows”.

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I love this poem. What a beautiful tribute to the ups and downs of life.

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Love the insights thank you for this ! love the tree example

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Thank you for this wonderful write up 🙏🏽

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As an amateur gardener (and recovering perfectionist), I learned about the “stress wood” phenomenon last year, when I adopted an indoor tree. In addition to cultural and self expectations, I also feel like I further reinforced perfectionism in my career by self-selecting into fields that required precision like quant consulting, quant research, data science, etc. I’m still learning the art of failure well into my adulthood—so I appreciate your wise POV on this topic!

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I loved the article thank you for sharing it, came at the right time :)

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Love this, and also greatly appreciated your writing on this topic today. Thank you!

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Thanks for sharing. I really enjoyed reading this. I was in a very similar situation a few years ago when I used to nitpick a lot about things at work, which now in hindsight, were definitely not worth my time.

I've come to accept that perfectionism is inversely proportional to the number of concerns in a context. As my responsibilities grew at work, and got pulled into more and more things, I had to shift away from perfectionism to good-enough. Same in my personal life. When I became a parent, I accepted that I won't have the same amount of time to keep the house clean and cook. I learned that a 30 minute good-enough meal along with 30 minutes of rest is way more valuable than an hour spent on the perfect meal

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"That's why one way to break out of perfectionism and imposter syndrome is to redefine yourself as someone who is hardworking and on a path of learning."

this is the best! Thank you for this :)

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