Doing what's necessary, even when it feels impossible
Thank you for this - exactly what I needed to read today.
I must say these are thought provoking perspectives, a lot is a journey of self discovery and perseverance. It’s a question of how does our true self react in a not-so-ideal situation, how do we as humans push forward when the novelty fades away? I’ve recently embarked on this journey of accepting the things I can’t control and appreciate the ones that I can.
I love your honesty, Deb Liu! thank you for this thoughtful reminder to keep pushing through. It ain't easy until it's done. And then everything will begin from zero. 😱
This quote from Steve Jobs came to my mind: "The only way to do great work is to love what you do." I am still kooking for a way to get back on track and your take on how to put things into perspective helped me A LOT! Keep it up 🆙 love your writing! Chris 💪
Deb, thank you for this simple, thoughtful, insightful piece. I was thunderstruck by this line, “There are times in life when we have to do something we don't want to until it gets us to something that we do.”
I have been in those situations so many times and I always thought there was something wrong with me that I didn’t want to go to the conference or the unfamiliar gathering or other group event. I never before linked what I “get through” to what I “get out” of such an event. My takeaway has always been a self-shaming: “See, you shouldn’t have gotten your panties in a twist over going to that!” I’ve heard that called “shoulding” on yourself.
I appreciate your invitation to recognize that I AM doing something hard to get to something I value.
Thanks Deb for writing in and sharing your learnings from your experience. Super motivating.
Love this, thanks for sharing! I also write a substack and hear you on the feast or famine… I’ve also discovered that when I batch write in advance, by the time I want to post, the idea seems outdated to me, because my life has moved on. My latest substack post was also on pushing beyond my comfort zone. I went to my 25th Stanford reunion despite the fact that I thought I barely knew anyone going. Long story short is, I had an amazing time and I’m so glad I went. It was great to reconnect, and I learned the power of just showing up. https://happyasianwoman.substack.com/p/lessons-learned-from-my-25th-stanford glad you continue to put your voice out there, Deb, and I appreciate your authenticity.
One thing I learned from the past is no matter how desperate I am, I just can’t simply give up. Because it doesn’t help and make things even worse. Yet, sometimes I am still wondering if the things didn’t work well, it is because my goal is too high or is just bad luck. I think either is very possible.
Thanks so much Deb for inspiring us to live everyday better than yesterday!!!
It was Lao Tzu who said:
"A journey of a thousand miles
always begins with the first step."