I like the framing of four factors shaping our realities (experience, interpretation, takeaway and reaction). What a helpful and actionable way to debug engagements that go haywire at work and in life!
When I start to read this post, I thought it is normal since people just have different self interest. Then, after reading I realized that even people aligned with interests, they still can comp up with different perceptions. Because they have a different understanding of the world.
Love this. We assume memory is like a photograph, a snapshot in time capturing the truth. But just like memories shape us, we shape our memories and see them through a filter of our reality.
With respect to different interpretations or reactions from different people - even for an equally shared experience - it's relevant to consider our underlying motivations as well. Said differently, what interpretation/reaction are we *choosing* or *desiring* to have of a certain experience?
One example: when in the middle of a conflict, we may *choose* to interpret our interactions or conversations with the other person uncharitably or in the least generous way possible.
A contrasting example: at work, I often see teams *desiring* so much to be in alignment that they paper over their actual disagreements or gaps in their strategies & goals. This feels good in the moment, but often created drag and tension later.
This is an interesting take. Whereas at work, you are incentivized to align perhaps in spaces (for example some online places) are set up to be argumentative.
We respond to incentives in all things, why not this?
I like the framing of four factors shaping our realities (experience, interpretation, takeaway and reaction). What a helpful and actionable way to debug engagements that go haywire at work and in life!
Good read. I put this article in our next newsletter.
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When I start to read this post, I thought it is normal since people just have different self interest. Then, after reading I realized that even people aligned with interests, they still can comp up with different perceptions. Because they have a different understanding of the world.
Love this. We assume memory is like a photograph, a snapshot in time capturing the truth. But just like memories shape us, we shape our memories and see them through a filter of our reality.
With respect to different interpretations or reactions from different people - even for an equally shared experience - it's relevant to consider our underlying motivations as well. Said differently, what interpretation/reaction are we *choosing* or *desiring* to have of a certain experience?
One example: when in the middle of a conflict, we may *choose* to interpret our interactions or conversations with the other person uncharitably or in the least generous way possible.
A contrasting example: at work, I often see teams *desiring* so much to be in alignment that they paper over their actual disagreements or gaps in their strategies & goals. This feels good in the moment, but often created drag and tension later.
This is an interesting take. Whereas at work, you are incentivized to align perhaps in spaces (for example some online places) are set up to be argumentative.
We respond to incentives in all things, why not this?
That resonates. Experiences <- interpretations/reactions <- motivations is an interesting concept we could pull the thread on.