How two people can see the same event in totally different ways
I like the framing of four factors shaping our realities (experience, interpretation, takeaway and reaction). What a helpful and actionable way to debug engagements that go haywire at work and in life!
Good read. I put this article in our next newsletter.
My learnings: https://share.glasp.co/kei/?p=1udHH1lRoLU0OuvDDjOv
When I start to read this post, I thought it is normal since people just have different self interest. Then, after reading I realized that even people aligned with interests, they still can comp up with different perceptions. Because they have a different understanding of the world.
With respect to different interpretations or reactions from different people - even for an equally shared experience - it's relevant to consider our underlying motivations as well. Said differently, what interpretation/reaction are we *choosing* or *desiring* to have of a certain experience?
One example: when in the middle of a conflict, we may *choose* to interpret our interactions or conversations with the other person uncharitably or in the least generous way possible.
A contrasting example: at work, I often see teams *desiring* so much to be in alignment that they paper over their actual disagreements or gaps in their strategies & goals. This feels good in the moment, but often created drag and tension later.