Thank you for sharing Deb. I think being honest about when you're feeling taken for granted is especially important, and hearing your partner out fairly when they suggest as much to you. It is so much easier to snap at your other half before thinking - I have the additional challenge in that I work alongside my fiance in our start up (I am CEO, he is CSO) and we do clash from time-to-time in a way neither of us would with anyone else on our team. We've also been together since we were very young (I was 15, he was 16) and we are both very independent people, so mindfully working on our relationship is important. We did counselling together some years ago after a rocky patch, which was very beneficial, and I'd recommend to anyone (as a 'tune-up!') as part of maintaining a healthy relationship. It held a mirror up to both of us, and even today, when I start to get frustrated at some particular behaviour, I recall the advice we were given and will try to calmly explain why I am feeling that way (and also consider if there are other external reasons for my annoyance) without throwing blame.
It’s so inspiring. Sometime ago I suddenly noticed my husband fills gas for my car too. I was so surprised. I also complained his cooking. I guess I should stop that. 😀
Good read as always. People tend to pay attention to what they have done to others, but it's not good. Instead, we should pay attention to what we've received. Good advice.
Congrats on the two decades, Deb! I just want to share one thing. In a loving, co-equal relationship, both you and your partner would understand each other’s thoughts along with other things like preferences and habits. Understanding all of this is for the sake of getting to know more about each other and to make living together more enjoyable for both of you. It’s not to tear each other down or to make someone feel so little. When a partner makes a mistake or two or three (how ever many), you always handle it with full awareness of your own feelings. You should be able to differentiate annoyance with good intentions from pure hatred. Being able to make such distinction will make things easier for you to reach a desirable outcome.
I’ve never gone to a marriage seminar with my husband but reading this has encouraged me to do so. I’ve been reading more and more substacks and articles related to relationships so it’s kind of interesting to weigh the differences between both types of approaches.
Complaining rarely solves anything, at least not on the long term. Congrats on the two decades, we’ll be into our first decade next year. 60/60 seems like a great strategy and I’ll make sure I forward this to my wife. 😄
If the best idea for earning revenue is to paywall-gate previously included features from people who have already spent money with you (e.g. Shared Matches in DNA accounts), it's time to start digging deeper into your team's commitment to innovation, and that customer relationship.
Instead of disappointing and frustrating your customers, delight them.
Thank you for sharing Deb. I think being honest about when you're feeling taken for granted is especially important, and hearing your partner out fairly when they suggest as much to you. It is so much easier to snap at your other half before thinking - I have the additional challenge in that I work alongside my fiance in our start up (I am CEO, he is CSO) and we do clash from time-to-time in a way neither of us would with anyone else on our team. We've also been together since we were very young (I was 15, he was 16) and we are both very independent people, so mindfully working on our relationship is important. We did counselling together some years ago after a rocky patch, which was very beneficial, and I'd recommend to anyone (as a 'tune-up!') as part of maintaining a healthy relationship. It held a mirror up to both of us, and even today, when I start to get frustrated at some particular behaviour, I recall the advice we were given and will try to calmly explain why I am feeling that way (and also consider if there are other external reasons for my annoyance) without throwing blame.
It’s so inspiring. Sometime ago I suddenly noticed my husband fills gas for my car too. I was so surprised. I also complained his cooking. I guess I should stop that. 😀
Good read as always. People tend to pay attention to what they have done to others, but it's not good. Instead, we should pay attention to what we've received. Good advice.
Memo to myself: https://glasp.co/kei/p/f3d03d2a38f9da3e9a66
Congrats on the two decades, Deb! I just want to share one thing. In a loving, co-equal relationship, both you and your partner would understand each other’s thoughts along with other things like preferences and habits. Understanding all of this is for the sake of getting to know more about each other and to make living together more enjoyable for both of you. It’s not to tear each other down or to make someone feel so little. When a partner makes a mistake or two or three (how ever many), you always handle it with full awareness of your own feelings. You should be able to differentiate annoyance with good intentions from pure hatred. Being able to make such distinction will make things easier for you to reach a desirable outcome.
I’ve never gone to a marriage seminar with my husband but reading this has encouraged me to do so. I’ve been reading more and more substacks and articles related to relationships so it’s kind of interesting to weigh the differences between both types of approaches.
Complaining rarely solves anything, at least not on the long term. Congrats on the two decades, we’ll be into our first decade next year. 60/60 seems like a great strategy and I’ll make sure I forward this to my wife. 😄
If the best idea for earning revenue is to paywall-gate previously included features from people who have already spent money with you (e.g. Shared Matches in DNA accounts), it's time to start digging deeper into your team's commitment to innovation, and that customer relationship.
Instead of disappointing and frustrating your customers, delight them.
BTW, you might want to read the Reddit thread on this news to get a better sense of how people are taking it.
Beautifully written and great advice.
Truly insightful article