Thank you for sharing. Good to know every receives constructive feedbacks one way the other and sometimes it was just hard to process/accept it at the beginning. Now Learn how to be open to the feedback before listening in the feedback :)
Fantastic write up. Hugely important. An Addendum that Sal Giambanco told me long ago, "People are inherently conflict averse. If someone reaches out to give you negative feedback, imagine how much they got past and how much they are risking to do so." This helped me on the framing / context setting of how to listen to people's words.
Deb - When you announced you were leaving Facebook the first thing that came to mind is how much we would miss your empathy and warmth as you shared feedback with hackathon teams. Thanks for sharing this note, in my opinion some of the feedback you write about receiving, are now some of your strengths (from my perspective).
Thanks so much for your kind words. The interesting thing is that I only posted once a month or so internally while at Facebook, so the weekly cadence is new to me. But I am enjoying the process of putting down thoughts to paper in a more systematic fashion.
Thank for you sharing your advise, I find it tremendously useful for myself and also recommend it to my mentees. Perhaps it is cultural, but I have always perceived that written feedback was more formal, next step escalation, when verbal feedback has proven ineffective. What is your advice in providing written feedback so that it is received with the right intention, instead of triggering a CYA response from the other person. I am also curious to hear your thoughts on if this (written feedback) is perhaps a more effective strategy for a more senior leader?
I had a strong pre-existing relationship with this person I sent the specific written feedback to (from the last post), so that helped. But more than that, if you share your written feedback in a way that is about how their behavior affected you rather than impugn their motives, it will go a long way to being heard.
I have gotten written feedback from time to time, and if it is from a peer or friend, it lands way better than if I heard it from my manager. For years, I shared nearly all of my feedback written for my peers with them directly so we could talk about it. For a few people who had difficult relationships with their managers, I even shared a copy ahead of submitting it since I wanted to make sure it was not misinterpreted.
Thank you for sharing. Good to know every receives constructive feedbacks one way the other and sometimes it was just hard to process/accept it at the beginning. Now Learn how to be open to the feedback before listening in the feedback :)
Fantastic write up. Hugely important. An Addendum that Sal Giambanco told me long ago, "People are inherently conflict averse. If someone reaches out to give you negative feedback, imagine how much they got past and how much they are risking to do so." This helped me on the framing / context setting of how to listen to people's words.
Those are wise words from Sal. And something we should all keep in mind.
Love this! As a writer, I'm accustomed to getting feedback from anyone and everyone - I've learned to take it seriously, but not personally
I love the phrase "take feedback seriously, but not personally."
Deb - When you announced you were leaving Facebook the first thing that came to mind is how much we would miss your empathy and warmth as you shared feedback with hackathon teams. Thanks for sharing this note, in my opinion some of the feedback you write about receiving, are now some of your strengths (from my perspective).
Thanks so much for your kind words. The interesting thing is that I only posted once a month or so internally while at Facebook, so the weekly cadence is new to me. But I am enjoying the process of putting down thoughts to paper in a more systematic fashion.
Thank for you sharing your advise, I find it tremendously useful for myself and also recommend it to my mentees. Perhaps it is cultural, but I have always perceived that written feedback was more formal, next step escalation, when verbal feedback has proven ineffective. What is your advice in providing written feedback so that it is received with the right intention, instead of triggering a CYA response from the other person. I am also curious to hear your thoughts on if this (written feedback) is perhaps a more effective strategy for a more senior leader?
I had a strong pre-existing relationship with this person I sent the specific written feedback to (from the last post), so that helped. But more than that, if you share your written feedback in a way that is about how their behavior affected you rather than impugn their motives, it will go a long way to being heard.
I have gotten written feedback from time to time, and if it is from a peer or friend, it lands way better than if I heard it from my manager. For years, I shared nearly all of my feedback written for my peers with them directly so we could talk about it. For a few people who had difficult relationships with their managers, I even shared a copy ahead of submitting it since I wanted to make sure it was not misinterpreted.