The dancing analogy hooked onto me. There’s no better way of putting it, and there’s no greater way of realizing it until you’ve interacted with various personalities.
That ability to bend, without losing yourself, to the other person’s rhythm, especially when they’re too encased within themselves to take initiative, takes a lot of effort and repetition. The fruits are ripe, but the tending takes a lot of willpower. You made great points on that matter.
But overall, unlearning old habits and thought patterns—as you highlighted throughout this piece, comes with cultivating a strong curiosity as well. Asking around to get an idea of how someone is, seeking accountability about how others rate your efforts for breaking those habits, grabbing that perspective to implement more strategies and become more open-minded; these are the marks of an individual who sees a world outside of their own concept, and will ultimately topple the patterns that impede them.
It must "say something about me" that, "I cannot [immediately] think of any old habits that I [would say] don't continue to serve me well"~ I will cite that instance some six (6) years ago I treated with Ibogaine Hydrochloride "out of country" as our FDA continues a firm ban on it here! I was at my wit's end and very possibly the end of my life after 31 years use of opioids in the forms of pain medication. When the prescriptions [finally] stopped, I began buying from the streets! I just "HAD TO HAVE IT" daily and 3 - 4 "hits" every day! The "habit" was indeed helpful in that "it diminished the chronic pain".
The reason that "the opioids habit" SIMPLY HAD TO END was that I had depleted a LOT of our savings and monthly income and that I was now risking "death from bad street supply" and arrest from being with the people I was forced (by my habit) to interface with weekly~
Thanking God, through His Son Jesus the Christ, that one-time dose of Ibogaine in Mexico made the stopping so incredibly easy~ I've not had ONE INSTANCE of withdrawal, dope-sickness or craving since the morning of March 18th 2018.
I don't know if that experience and shared episode of "changing a habit that no longer served" qualifies for this column and/or topic; but should anyone need additional detail for their own need to "snap an addiction", or that of anyone they know... I'll be happy to supply my experience and "found blessing" even further!
Stanley Poe,
a 60's something husband, father, grandfather and even "great-grandfather" / entrepreneur and businesses owner who's learned a LOT about life! Stan@Biehler-PoeEnterprises.com
Ms. Liu~ My small but SOLID company wants and "needs" to get an envelope of information to your desk or another "you specifically" address. USPS, UPS, FedEx... your call. Once viewed, you'll be making a telephone call to us! Ancestry's NEXT powerful and extremely unique platform~ Stan@Biehler-PoeEnterprises.com 419-618-0747 anytime! (est/us)
I love this! For me, it all starts with acknowledgement. You have to first be convinced that there's something that isn't serving you. This is hard because usually, it's a pattern that's served you in the past, but just isn't serving you now. Letting go of that can also come with its own set of grief, which can also be difficult to process. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly!
I love this! For me, it all starts with acknowledgement. You have to first be convinced that there's something that isn't serving you. This is hard because usually, it's a pattern that's served you in the past, but just isn't serving you now. Letting go of that can also come with its own set of grief, which can also be difficult to process. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly!
I like to fold and rip my napkins in half to use twice and I got mad at my kids for using an entire napkin once. I quickly realized that I needed to learn how to override no longer useful reactions and instead focus on teaching the value (not wasting resources) behind the action.
Thanks Deb, this is another fantastic edition of your newsletter, as always. I always make time to read your newsletter as each edition is packed with so much value and insight from your experience.
I've realised (similar to the male colleague you mentioned) that I people please too much in my role and try not to inconvenience people, which often leads to my not advocating for what I need in my role from team members so as to not bother them or be seen as "difficult" or "demanding." I've been working to find the balance between being kind and friendly, but also assertive and confident in my role to ask for what I need.
I'm in a transition point in my career where I'm moving into a more senior role with more responsibility and demands, and I have found your book and newsletter super helpful in this–I'm working to overcome and change old behaviours and habits, like being agreeable all the time, quiet/waiting to speak, and not voicing my opinions or thoughts.
Thanks for all you do. You're really making a tangible difference for so many women in their careers.
The dancing analogy hooked onto me. There’s no better way of putting it, and there’s no greater way of realizing it until you’ve interacted with various personalities.
That ability to bend, without losing yourself, to the other person’s rhythm, especially when they’re too encased within themselves to take initiative, takes a lot of effort and repetition. The fruits are ripe, but the tending takes a lot of willpower. You made great points on that matter.
But overall, unlearning old habits and thought patterns—as you highlighted throughout this piece, comes with cultivating a strong curiosity as well. Asking around to get an idea of how someone is, seeking accountability about how others rate your efforts for breaking those habits, grabbing that perspective to implement more strategies and become more open-minded; these are the marks of an individual who sees a world outside of their own concept, and will ultimately topple the patterns that impede them.
Great article🙏🏾
Thank you! I am learning to bend more and more with age, and it has been a tough but rewarding journey.
It must "say something about me" that, "I cannot [immediately] think of any old habits that I [would say] don't continue to serve me well"~ I will cite that instance some six (6) years ago I treated with Ibogaine Hydrochloride "out of country" as our FDA continues a firm ban on it here! I was at my wit's end and very possibly the end of my life after 31 years use of opioids in the forms of pain medication. When the prescriptions [finally] stopped, I began buying from the streets! I just "HAD TO HAVE IT" daily and 3 - 4 "hits" every day! The "habit" was indeed helpful in that "it diminished the chronic pain".
The reason that "the opioids habit" SIMPLY HAD TO END was that I had depleted a LOT of our savings and monthly income and that I was now risking "death from bad street supply" and arrest from being with the people I was forced (by my habit) to interface with weekly~
Thanking God, through His Son Jesus the Christ, that one-time dose of Ibogaine in Mexico made the stopping so incredibly easy~ I've not had ONE INSTANCE of withdrawal, dope-sickness or craving since the morning of March 18th 2018.
I don't know if that experience and shared episode of "changing a habit that no longer served" qualifies for this column and/or topic; but should anyone need additional detail for their own need to "snap an addiction", or that of anyone they know... I'll be happy to supply my experience and "found blessing" even further!
Stanley Poe,
a 60's something husband, father, grandfather and even "great-grandfather" / entrepreneur and businesses owner who's learned a LOT about life! Stan@Biehler-PoeEnterprises.com
Wow, that is an incredible journey. I am so happy you found your way back with the help of your faith.
Ms. Liu~ My small but SOLID company wants and "needs" to get an envelope of information to your desk or another "you specifically" address. USPS, UPS, FedEx... your call. Once viewed, you'll be making a telephone call to us! Ancestry's NEXT powerful and extremely unique platform~ Stan@Biehler-PoeEnterprises.com 419-618-0747 anytime! (est/us)
I love this! For me, it all starts with acknowledgement. You have to first be convinced that there's something that isn't serving you. This is hard because usually, it's a pattern that's served you in the past, but just isn't serving you now. Letting go of that can also come with its own set of grief, which can also be difficult to process. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly!
I love this! For me, it all starts with acknowledgement. You have to first be convinced that there's something that isn't serving you. This is hard because usually, it's a pattern that's served you in the past, but just isn't serving you now. Letting go of that can also come with its own set of grief, which can also be difficult to process. Thank you for sharing your journey so openly!
I like to fold and rip my napkins in half to use twice and I got mad at my kids for using an entire napkin once. I quickly realized that I needed to learn how to override no longer useful reactions and instead focus on teaching the value (not wasting resources) behind the action.
Thanks Deb, this is another fantastic edition of your newsletter, as always. I always make time to read your newsletter as each edition is packed with so much value and insight from your experience.
I've realised (similar to the male colleague you mentioned) that I people please too much in my role and try not to inconvenience people, which often leads to my not advocating for what I need in my role from team members so as to not bother them or be seen as "difficult" or "demanding." I've been working to find the balance between being kind and friendly, but also assertive and confident in my role to ask for what I need.
I'm in a transition point in my career where I'm moving into a more senior role with more responsibility and demands, and I have found your book and newsletter super helpful in this–I'm working to overcome and change old behaviours and habits, like being agreeable all the time, quiet/waiting to speak, and not voicing my opinions or thoughts.
Thanks for all you do. You're really making a tangible difference for so many women in their careers.